A Message For Brashaw

I found it very offensive that you e-mailed me concerning rose cuttings. Why you selected me among several others I do not know. I am new to gardening and just learning about roses myself. I'm sure that there are several people here that would be willing to help after reading your post if you would just be patient. If there is a subject that we have in common I wouldn't mind receiving your letter, but I feel this letter was completely out of line.

I received one, too. I think Brashaw just might be new and unfamiliar with the usual way of doing things.

Might want to just post a trade list here, Brashaw -- that will probably get a better response.

Added 5/10/2001: Brashaw - I hope you're reading this. No one meant you any harm. I hope you've not been scared off by all this - DG really is a friendly place to be, honest!

This message was edited Thursday, May 10th 5:05 PM

I also received one. Have never started roses from cuttings.

Post a request and maybe some of the more experienced rose growers might be able to help you out.

I also recieved a request but I did not feel the least bit offended by it. As the forum is set up by Dave the Email comes through the site and it is up to the individual to respond or not as they see fit. I believe this new gardener is trying to fit in and am happy to share what little I can with her.

As for why we were singled out...it is probably due to our postings on the rose forum and or the rose forums that got her attention. I for one am flattered that my feeble efforts might be of use to someone else.

Being fairly new to the forum myself I too am still trying to sort out the "proper" etiquette and hope that if I offend anyone that they will forgive my inexpeience and gently lead me into the correct way of things.

I was not offended either, only wish I had another rose cutting to send her.
Sandy

Carol, I received the same email from Brenda. It was a very nice, friendly note. I'm not really sure why you found her email so offensive or why you're so upset. I hope you haven't scared brashaw off by choosing to humiliate her in such a public manner. Such disagreements are better handled by private emails. I certainly would not want to be chastised in front of 1,704 members for simply sending someone an email. My 2 cents.

Terri

I received an e-mail, too - and I thought it just someone who really, really, really wants some roses! I chose not to respond, as I don't have any roses to share right now, and not responding allows me to protect the privacy of my "real" e-mail name.

I've posted on the Rose forum, and have discussed rose propagation; I figured that's how my name was chosen.

Brenda, if you're reading this, I've posted some suggestions to you on the Rose forum - some hints that hopefully will help you be successful in obtaining some rose cuttings and starts. Feel free to post questions on the rose forum to ask others for their input on what roses they would suggest you start out with.

Good luck in your search, and welcome to DG. Sorry you've learned an "etiquette" lesson the hard way right off the bat, but I promise we're all pretty friendly! I think Carol's reaction may have stemmed from the recent problems a lot of folks have had with spamming. If you've ever had to close an e-mail account and open a new one, you know it's almost as messy as changing your real address, so folks tend to be a bit nervous about receiving e-mails from someone they don't know.

Terri,
I knew I would get some flak about this post when I wrote it, but I'm not changing my opinion. I already received two letters from people who didn't particularly care for it themselves. We are a vast mixture of people here and while some may enjoy such mail, there are others who don't.
Carol

No problem, Carol. I would never ask someone to change their opinion.

Terri

Oops, I forgot to say something. For any DG member that would like to email me about something, always feel free to do so. If I can help you in any way, I will.

Terri

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wow, i thought it was acceptable to email people growing plants that i might be looking for. what a shame that an inquiry would cause such distress!

Anyone can e-mail me at any time. One sort of expects it when you sign up for a place like this.

Now if I would just remember to check my Hotmail e-mail address once in awhile, you might get an answer back from me! *LOL*

The nice thing about Dave's Garden is if we say something we later regret, we can always edit the post.

May I ask is it nit acceptable to look at members trade lists and contact them if they have things listed you would like to have for trade or sase? If not then what are they for? Would it not be better then to just email people privatly with your have and want list after being contacted from an offer you post? I received the same email and went out today and collected some cuttings from old roses to share with Brenda. So many people have been so good to me I need to try to be the same to someone else getting started.

Yes, Marclay - that is the point of the trading lists, so you can browse others lists and when you find something of interest, contact them. The search feature comes in really handy if you're looking for something in particular.

I think this thread started because there were some folks who didn't have roses on their trade list, and were uncomfortable receiving an e-mail from someone they didn't know, about a subject that wasn't necessarily among their gardening interests.