what do you do????

.....when two friends you know don't like each other, but you like them both.......both hard headed and insist it's the others fault????

"eyes"

don't side with either one, that would just make it worse. Just be neutral and stay friends with each of them. Maybe they'll come around. The worst thing you can do is interfere.........just my 2 cents :)

.......don't have a clue what the real problem is...and I never take sides!

"eyes"

I agree with Flowox. Hope it all works out.

Eyes, this is hard. I found myself in the same situation about 20 years ago. We tried very hard to stay neutral and then ended up helping one couple move away from a house they rented from the other. Long story short, both couples divorced, we removed ourselves completely from any contact. The woman who we help the other move away from has again become my friend - says she always was, it was just to difficult to deal with all the other stuff. The one we helped has completely left the area, her first marriage and child and apparently her second marriage.

Now, I realize that you aren't in the same situation and I know that all the couple stuff sounds weird, but it was what ended the friendships to begin with. If I had to do it over, I would spend time with both separately, tell them right up front that I didn't discuss the other person and stick to it. If your friends insist on telling you about how they each feel about the other, tell them they can change the subject, or you leave. It can be done, you just have to make it very clear to both of them what your position is and how you intend to hold it.

You are indeed a very wise woman, Kathleen.....thank you for the advice.

"eyes"

Absolutley Kathleen, great advice, I wish someone told me this a few years ago.

Eyes, good luck and sorry to hear you are in that situation.

Or lock them in a room together and make them work it out. I am just kidding. Kathleen had great advice.

Mystic....you don't know how much I'd like to do that, thing is they cyber friends....

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I figure if they are friends of mine they will not try to drag me into their squabbles or try to choose between them. If they are doing that they are not very good friends to me. As much as I would like for all my friends to like each other and to be able to enjoy them all together, that is not realistic. So I simply try to enjoy each of them for the unique person they are and if they should form friendships through me that is great...if not that is ok too!Just do not allow anyone to draw you into the middle of things! Life is complicated enough without "friends" confusing it more. If they are trying to draw you into it just mount up old Snockers and ride away from both of them til it blows over!

Kathleen and Zany I agree' TRUE'

{{{{{{{{Zany}}}}}}}}}...love ya kiddo.....that's exactly what I'm doing!

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Eyes, I have to log another vote for Kathleen's advice. I also want to let you know you're not alone, bless your heart. Kenny and I were in a similar situation once with his neice and nephew. They, their spouses and families were (are) very close to us and we had the "no talking bad about the other" rule, too. It worked quite well.

We always welcome company to come sit by the creek, eat BBQ, drink some beer, camp if they want to, let the kids run up and down the creek with the dogs like Huck Finn ~ lots of fun! But VERY often, one or the other would call us to see if we wanted company some weekend and the other would already be there with their family. They would "have to" pass. One weekend David and family showed up unexpectedly when Rhonda and family were already there. He walked right up to her and they buried the 9 year old hatchett right there by the campfire. I guess he got tired of only being able to come over half the time. *grin*

I hope your situation resolves itself soon so you don't have to be in this position anymore.