I've been thinking on this subject a great deal lately, how do you honor someone you love? I've been thinking because I recently found out about one to be presented to me by my youngest daughter on her Wedding Day. I'm not going to tell you just yet what Tarsha has planned for me. I will say it's a good thing she told me now and not surprised me on her Wedding Day, I don't think I would of been able to cope.
SO im really interested to know.........
As a parent what would you consider a honor ?
As a child, how would you honor your parent/parents and or guardian?
Do you HONOR your parents or special loved one? How?
My DD Tarsha who is even more beautiful on the inside than she is on the out.
I think the best way children can honor their parents is to live their lives according to the principles they were taught growing up and to be independent in thought and action. To me if you can accomplish that as a parent you have been rewarded. It is also very nice when you get a tangible bit of credit for the effort. I have my mom here with me now. She is in many respects the person I remember but in some other ways not. Many days it is not easy but the memories of her sacrifice and hard work help with day to day trials and tribulations. Congrats on your DD appreciating your effort in making her a great human being. That is after all the goal isn't it and by all accounts you have succeeded well. I will be looking forward to hearing about your honor at the ceremony.
I honor my parents by saying a prayer for them on the anniversary of their deaths and by remembering them fondly, (albeit sadly for my loss), on their birthdays.
While they were alive they told me exactly how to honor them, - by achieving in school & occupation and by not getting myself into a mess which would make them ashamed of me.
I was taught early on that they did not want tributes or ceremonies in their honor, in fact it was contrary to the values they were teaching me and considered wasteful, they absolutely did not like to bask in that light. Looking back I suppose some of it came from the fact that they were working class people who had seen poverty, tragedy & the misery of war. They took nothing for granted, (as I often do).
Finally I honor the love of my life by not betraying her trust and by putting her health, safety & success before mine, a trait that comes easily for me, - thanks to my parents. ☺
Similar here. I think my parents are honored most by how we live our lives - after their example.
My kids can honor me by leaving the house as soon as possible! ^_^
Just kidding - same thing - by being great people.
I have to agree, living their lives in the example you set.
WC, my parents were the same way and I do honor them on their B-days and Annivesary of their deaths with prayers, but I very seldom go to where they are buried. It does not feel like I am with them when I am there or they with me.....thats not some place I have memories of them. Yesterday at the wedding I felt very, very close to my mother... this was not any relationship to her but the Lake is where I swam with my Mother as a child. It felt wonderful to be there on that Lake again, felt like coming home.
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Both of my sons have honored us as parents by showing us that they have the values we taught them. My oldest son is great for sending random cards in the mail with thank yous for what we have done for him. Both of them have verbally told us their feelings, knowing that you did a half decent job raising them is wonderful. So many wait until it's too late! I think the biggest honer of all from them both is that they know how to show their feelings and aren't afraid of that as some "guys" are!
Both my parents have passed on, my mom since I was a young mother myself...my honer to them is to remember how well I was raised with honesty and love and in turn I learned how to give that to my husband and boys. I have learned to stop feeling guilty when I see a dysfunctional family and be proud of what I had/have!
I think it's wonderful Celeste that your daughter is doing something for you...again so many wait until it's too late! (your daughter is beautiful too)
Me too Sherrie, #1 rule in my house!
I feel you can honor your parents by showing them respect and living your life in a way that would make them proud.
To give them an honor(at a ceremony or something) I think parents would love to just hear their kids say "thank you"
i DID NOT help celeste with the title of this thread:)
Ha ha ha!! Yes he did!!!!
Funny, didn't even notice before, thanks Bill!
I guess I honor my Mom by helping her as much as I can....I agree about the cemetery....I think good thoughts about my Dad, & the Grandma whose garden I grew up in. My son has been the best son anyone could have....I guess seeing him living life as a loving husband & father is the greatest honor I could ever have from him.....but I am also very proud of his accomplishments as well.
Ok so yes, living your life in a way that reflects all your parents have taught you is a major honor....I agree. Bringing forth the values they taught you and instilling them into your own children is an honor also.
Maybe naming their 1st born child after you or taking good care of us whan we are ailing or elderly. A plaque, a reading, a prayer at Mass to bless them and keep then safe..
I would guess those are all ways to honor your parents.
This story touched me this morning...another way to honor/remember someone?
http://g.sports.yahoo.com/soccer/world-cup/news/dempsey-celebrates-goals-with-happiness-and--fbintl_ro-dempsey061610.html
Wow...what a story...chilling about her helping him get the ball into the net.
I know, loved it!
I don't honer or honor my parents at all. I honour my parents ^_^
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funny
Whatsamatta U?!!
So i've been busy w/ wedding plans....Wedding Favors actually. It's driving me mad!
LOL
We have Matches made up and will be put by the bar for the smokers.......
Then of course you need napkins for the bar and tables.....
And little magnets for everyone, had 250 of these little devils made up. This is what it says on them....
This little poem can not convey
All that we feel on this magical day
So a heartfelt thanks is sent to you
For sharing this day and our memories too.
Tarsha & Mitch
Sept. 5th, 2010
Met with the Florist last week and got all of it ordered and 3/4 of it is paid for already.(phew!)
Playing with Martini glasses and rock candy. Making Green Apple Martini's....need one after a long day of planning. ^_^
Now, Tarsha and I have been talking traditions.......she likes some and others she likes to change a bit! LOL
What are your favorite traditions when it comes to weddings??
Love the magnet idea! I still like the father/daughter, mother/son dance but really need a special song not the traditional ones...At both my son's both mom and dad walked the bride down the isle, that was nice. My sister walked down my niece at hers. I still like the cutting of the cake but can live without throwing the bouquet and garter. I have sons and paid my fair share for my guest at the weddings and paid for the flowers. (I guess cause I'm the flower person LOL) I still love the introductions and special speeches.
I love watching the Mother /Son dance...don't know why but they almost always look at their Mom's a certain way.....know what I mean? At the last wedding I attended(June 12) I had my camera ready when the Mother/Son dance took place. This is the look I was talking about......
I too have been to a few weddings where both parent walk the bride down the isle, I think it's nice. This last wedding both the Step father & Real father walked her down , then the Step-F. sat down when they got to the alter and the real dad stayed. When it came time to answer "who give this woman to this man" her real Dad answered "Her Mother, Kevin, (step-Dad) and I". I thought that was wonderful!!
Tarsha has a bit of a conflict with that so she has choosen her brother Joshua to walk her down the isle. He couldn't be more proud!!
I forgot to say I picked up my dress Sat. and am happy to say the only alterations that need to be done are for it to be shortened. A Foot!!! LOL They make these darn dresses for long TALL Models!!
Here's a better view of the color
better look
Beautiful dress for a beautiful person.
Awwwwe, only a beautiful person would say something like that. ^_^
True....you will look lovely! The only time I cried during son's wedding was the son/mother dance. Love the idea of the candy martinis.....aren't flowers expensive? I paid for them for Garret's wedding......my DIL chose orange & purple flowers....they were very nice.
Very nice! You're so good at this now you should go into business!
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Ha ha...there's a thought Victor!