MY Deepest Apology

I was informed this evening and it was brought to my attention that some from this forum have left because of me.

I was further informed that some considered me controling and that i tried to force people to answer threads.
It was made clear to me that i thought i knew everything and only what i knew was right.
I was also made aware that some here do not like me and just didn't have the guts to tell me.

Please except my deepest apology for any distress, confusion, or controling that i was unaware i did.

I never knew this was being kept from me as i thought i was a part of this forum and nothing more.
I have no ideas of granduor or that i think i know everything i'm allways willing to learn from others.
There are so many here that i admire and think are such grand people.
Grow you will one day have all those chickens you desire and goats too. Claire your zoo still grows and it amazing what you do.
Jean Marie what a sweet person you are and you will too have those show girls.
Wren my florida cousin maybe one day we could meet.......Sheila bless you and your lovely family
Luvs you will have peace i'm sure of it...........Kristen sweet kristen take care of those girls oh and your beautiful children too.......

Again i apologize for anything that i have done or if someones friend left because of me. I only tried to be friendly and helpful and anything i did was because i care so much for chickens and the people here.
It took someone telling me the truth to let me see how some feel and especially to those who ever you may be I"M SO SORRY

Harmony, I do not know what to say. I dont think you would intentionally hurt anyone.
We need to embrace our differences in personality as well as opinions. We will all never agree all the time.
Pretty butterfly.

Harmony I do not see you that way. You are a nice caring person. And I think we do need some one to motivate people at times. It is sad that some may look at it in the wrong way.

Please do not let people hurt you. I for one look forward to your posting.

This suprises me. I never got that impression of you. I appreciate the info I have gotten from you and others on this forum. Keep on cluckin'. LOL

Harmony please keep on posting. Keep on pushing us to respond. And specially keep on making us laugh.

I live by the believe that you must look at all sides of what a person says or writes before you make up your mind. Some times people do not clearly hear or read what is being said or written and they go off half cocked. I have never read anything that could be taken that way

Harmony,

I have not been frequenting the DG as much as I did. Partly been too busy with the "real world" and partly got addicted to Facebook and only have so much time online.

I think you are a lovely person and contribute a lot to this forum. You have strong opinions and a lot of experience to back that up. I look up to you and look forward to your advice in the threads I read.

I really hope that you do not leave just because someone felt they needed to lash out at someone -- and it happened to be you. :-(

Kristin

Harm: I'm shocked!!! I made it a point to D-mail you and express myself. Therefore there is no reason to go into it now. Suffice it to say, at times we all have strong opinions, with no harm (no pun) intended. We should not be offended when our friends don't agree. We all express ourselves and generally with a desire to help. I have personally appreciated every person on this forum, and am a little surprised and shocked with all this. Harm I personally embrace the wealth of info you have shared with us and hope you will continue. For those who have felt hurt or offended I hope you will be big enough to rejoin us while we all attempt to put ourselves in check. We must extend grace if we ever expect it to return to us. Surely we have all unintentionally offended someone. Haystack

Thanks Everyone i felt since i was given this information today that i would extend my "Deepest Apology" if i had said or done something to upset someone here if i did it was truly unintentinal.

I appreciate your wanting me here and i thank you so much it doe's a person's heart and soul good to feel wanted and appreciated.

Harmony
I don't post like I have in the past. Not for any reason, just this is down time for me and making plans for the spring. I have had such a good time watching people dance in chicken hats, sheep being washed, self blue chicks in a bowl. I have learned all kinds of new disease and treatments for my fowl. I have been in the "chicken" business since I was very young. I have learned from doing and have made mistakes and learned from them. I will say I have not agreed with some peoples way of doing things, but I feel if it works for them DO IT! I as a small boy would sit for hours with "old timers" and listen. I call what happened to you a "slap on the wrist" Trust me I have had a few. Please! keep giving the advice that works for you and let us learn and see if it works for us. I was very happy when 2 people were gone from the forum. Don't leave us yet.

I am an ex- nurse. I have sewn stitches, braced legs and been given chicks who people wanted to put down. Some were successes, some not. I do know when to let them go and put them out of their misery. My idea of a good chicken life may differ from others, but again It's how I function. I know I have just come out of the wood work on this post, but I see this type of behavior more and more. Let's have fun and learn from each other. We are now the "old timers" LOL
George

Thanks George what a wonderful post thanks for shareing your experience i too learned from some "Old Timers"
Thats so sweet you recueing the little chicks what a Big Heart♥ you have to do that.
Please come out more i would love to hear more about your "Old Timer" Stories and your rescued chicks.

Harmony, that was a bolt out of the blue to me! I think we need to think of ALL of us sort of as hens -- we peck, and we get our feathers ruffled now and then. All in all, we're a pretty happy flock, though, don't you think?

Brigidilly i thought that was the way it was too i was not aware it was anything different until i had the above told to me.
So i wanted to apologize to whoever it seemed i had offended as i had no idea i had done so.

Wow, did I miss something!? Harmony, I'm glad that you're a part of DG and especially on this forum. You've always been here for everyone. :-)
I have been bouncing from my house taking care of my elderly father and watching my nephew and running over to my 85 year old uncle's house to help him. So my appearance here has been abit scarce.
I did want to wish you a happy belated birthday, however. :-)

OH fiddlesticks, Hominy, looks like you caught someone on a witchy day. Pfffft! }:oP I don't find you offensive or overbearing or controlling... opinionated, yeah, but not baselessly so. Big hairy Whoop! Where would I be if we flushed all the opinionated folks...? =0)

Who is this crowd that wants a white bread, milk toast, no pepper added world? They cause me endless vexation with their accusations and back stabbing, their cultural 'correctness', their petty whining.

Get real... how can typed words on these boards control anybody? Just ignore someone who gets stuck in your craw... it's not like they can talk over you, everyone gets their own little square to post in.

Like I said before, why do we all have to like the same thing? I like you just the way you are, Harmony, but that doesn't mean we're not going to lock broomsticks from time to time.

IMHO.... LOL
Jay

Unfortunately, threads like this have the (usually unintended) consequence of causing people to feel the need to take sides, just like an "I'm leaving because someone hurt my feelings" announcement or an outright public dispute between the two parties.

I don't know the background on this, and I doubt I need to. But I would like to gently point out a couple general observations:

1) There are always two sides to any story. Both sides are going to be somewhat skewed due to the perspective of each party involved. It's usually best (wisest and healthiest) to avoid getting sucked into someone else's drama and conflict.

2) If someone gives you constructive feedback that your actions are overbearing or otherwise causing problems, consider they may have a valid point, and use their input to help you see yourself through another person's eyes. You may ultimately decide they are being overly sensitive, but don't put them (anonymously or by name) on trial in the court of public opinion.

It is seriously a skill to write in a manner that properly expresses true tone and intonation that could be taken either way. Sometimes perception can be due to past experience and it just gets embedded a certain way. Good writers sell books when they master this skill! We are all just people and I see people take things the wrong way all the time. For this reason, I TRY to take it all in and not take it to heart.....but we all have our bad days. I've over re-acted and then regretted it.

I'm sorry that someone was offended, but I honestly have never seen a word that I thought intentionally mean from you Harmony. All you can do is apologize and go on. For one person to cause that type of reaction? I really think there may be more to it. I don't know.....I'm just saying. Too bad that they can't come back and work it out. Surely it is a misunderstanding.



This message was edited Jan 27, 2009 7:24 PM

Hi Jay: What do you mean? IMHO, you've never had a humble opinion LOL Sorry Jay, I love your comments. Just had to get that in. Thanks Jenks, and Terry Both of your comments are right on...Terry I have always wanted to visit Murfreesboro, Tenn. From all that I have heard it is a great place to visit. Hope to hear more from you. Haystack

Lets call it passed as Grow says i think and i certainly hope that the person or persons who i offended or hurt have seen my apology and understood i would never intentionally hurt or try to control anyone.
I'm just a part of this forum just like everyone else and i have no magic words or a degree in chicken technology.
I want to simply help others solve the problems they have with their animals if i can.

Thanks to everyone who posted here and thanks for the lesson Terry

Peace to all♥

Hay...
It cracks me up every time I type IMHO...
=0) Jay

Unfortunately, threads like this have the (usually unintended) consequence of causing people to feel the need to take sides, just like an "I'm leaving because someone hurt my feelings" announcement or an outright public dispute between the two parties.

I don't know the background on this, and I doubt I need to. But I would like to gently point out a couple general observations:

1) There are always two sides to any story. Both sides are going to be somewhat skewed due to the perspective of each party involved. It's usually best (wisest and healthiest) to avoid getting sucked into someone else's drama and conflict.

2) If someone gives you constructive feedback that your actions are overbearing or otherwise causing problems, consider they may have a valid point, and use their input to help you see yourself through another person's eyes. You may ultimately decide they are being overly sensitive, but don't put them (anonymously or by name) on trial in the court of public opinion.




I agree!!!

takes more than someone getting bossy to hurt my feelings. I am old army. not the new touchy feely one they have today with the stress cards. My dad was a gunny sergeant in the marines and my husband was army too. can't have thin skin around this bunch. If I get my feathers ruffled, we can always take to the chicken yard like the hens do and be best buds after. It'll pass. Don't let it change you. Some folks just are really sensative.

Right on, IB!