This message was edited Nov 27, 2007 6:57 PM
update on my brother carl
(((Eunice)))
You and Carl and your family have been on my mind and in my prayers. We've been concerned not to have heard from you in a while... sounds like you've been at Carl's side, and I know he's glad to have your love & support.
Due to computer problems, I haven't made the first call yet for the holiday Bingo game... so make a list of picks and get your card Dmailed to Lin! Play when you can, and don't worry if you can't keep up with the game... we'd be glad to have you playing with us even some of the time. :-)
We're closer this week (visiting the folks in NC), but not quite close enough, or I'd bring over Thanksgiving sandwiches. They were first created in our family for my aunt, when she had a baby on Thanksgiving day and wanted something other than hospital food... turkey, stuffing, and cranberry sauce, piled high between slices of white bread spread with miracle whip!
This message was edited Nov 27, 2007 6:58 PM
OK, one big dressing sandwich coming up! I make a pretty substantial stuffing (sausage, ground beef, minced onion and mushrooms, all cooked up beforehand and crumbled into P. Farm seasoned dressing cubes), so that should work.
Are you and your husband back home for the weekend? I hope everybody is having safe travels with the holiday traffic.
And you're right; sometimes it's too easy to take family for granted.
I have the the most wonderful in-laws! I told my DMIL earlier this week that if all mothers-in-law were like her, nobody would make mother-in-law jokes. She had to think about that one for half a moment, LOL.
Eunice: I had a feeling you were with your brother at the hospital. I will keep him and your entire family in my prayers. I know how hard it is back and forth when a loved one is in the hospital. I went through that with my dear Mother and my dear MIL before they passed. My Mom went through chemo and it is so hard, and I think even more difficult when you are older. Wow! You come from a large family don't you? How many kids total in your family? There are 6 kids in my family and I thought that was a lot. My Mom had all 6 kids by the time she was 30 and we are all close in age. My oldest sister is 9 months, 3 weeks older than me! I turned 59 in March and she didn't turn 60 until May! We are the same age two months out of every year .... mom called us her Irish twins! My husband is the youngest of 4 boys and his oldest brother was 18 when he was born. You sound like us ... family scattered all over, which makes it hard to get together very often.
Critter: Your sandwich sounds identical to my favorite! I love turkey, stuffing, cranberry sauce sandwiches with either mayo or miracle whip! Preferablty MW since it is sweeter! yummmmmm - That will be my lunch tomorrow! My mom is the one who got me hooked on them! I also cannot eat a tuna fish sandwich without potato chips on it! Sounded so yucky when I first saw my friends husband eating one ... she said oh, I can't believe you've never heard of that ... they are wonderful! So, next time I made a tuna sandwich I found myself putting the mayo on the bread and then the tuna and added a few chips .... really is good - crunchy/salty good! And, when I make Chicken Salad I HAVE to put chopped cashews in it, and sometimes mandarin oranges too!
Well, enough about food!
I am so sorry you didn't get to have a big family Thanksgiving dinner but the important thing is that your brother had you all by his side and he knows you are all there for him. I know that meant a lot.
I hope you will be able to play Bingo this month but we will all understand if you aren't able to play. And, you know we will all be thinking about you! Tell your brother he has lots of prayers going up for him. I just remember how exhausted my Mom was when she was going through chemo treatments, so it will be normal for your brother to sleep a lot. That takes a lot out of you.
Hang in there and know we are all here for you!
my brother carl went home to be with the lord yesterday at 1:43pm
i was holding his hand when he left us.
thank you far your prayers,and please remember my family at this time
Eunic
I am so sorry About your brother but they say the good die young and He is without pain and in special place.Its hard on the Hoildays, I am so very sorry.Be safe and please take care. And My prayers are with you and the Family
Please Take care
Kim
Eunice,
Sorry for your loss but glad you were there with him. I'm sure that comforted him so knowing you were there and the peace it surely brought him along with his recent decision to accept the Lord Jesus into his heart. Blessings and peace to you too.
Laura
Eunice: I am so very sorry about the passing of your brother, Carl. He is now in heaven, where there is no pain and suffering. I truly believe that when a loved one passes, even though their physical presence is gone, their spirit remains with us, and memories will sustain us until we are called to make that journey to reunite with them in heaven. You and your family are in my prayers. Take care.
((((( Hugs ))))) & Blessings,
Lin
Eunice I am so sorry about your brother. I know it has been very hard on you. Here are (((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))) and prayer for you.
Eunice,
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.
Still praying for comfort and healing for all who held Carl dear. It's good that you were there with him, although I know it must have been so, so hard to say goodbye. I'm glad we have a faith that tells us that such farewells are not final, or I don't think I could stand it. I hope you will find many happy memories to help you through the sadness of not having Carl around during this family-festive time of year. *HUGS*
Eunice,
I am so sorry I just saw this thread. We love you and wish you a little bit of happiness this next year. You certainly deserve some.
Gail
Eunice ...So sorry to hear of the loss of your brother Carl.My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time.{{{HUGS}}}
Nancy
it has been a very long day today,we had the service far my brother today,
went better than we thought it would.,there was 137 of his friends there,then all the family.
it was wonderfull to see how many friends he had,and everyone said the same thing
he was a man of his word,and if you needed something he was there..
heres a couple of pictures of him
the one with the 4 pictures around it is my sister mary ann
and this is carl in jesus arm, now this one got to me
Thank you for sharing so precious to you, Eunice. Thanks and I can see why it was so emotional for you to lose him.
Oh Goodness Eunice, I JUST found this thread again this morning.
I am SO sorry to hear of Carl's passing.
I too agree with Lin, in heaven there is no more pain and suffering. Someday we will all be together again in the Garden of Eden and watching a loved one suffer is probably the biggest pain for the heart there is. I'm sure Carl was comforted every time he opened his eyes and saw you there Eunice.
My dad is a practicing born again Christian and prays for Jesus to take him home on a daily basis. He is in SO much pain in the body that he has that he has to go to Florida every winter and live on the streets in his van just to try to escape any kind of coldness. When he dies, he will be free of his pain. I will never cry for him as I know he will be at home with the father and be pain free and happy. This thought helps me when I hear him speak of his pain. Quite honestly, sometimes when I pray I ask Jesus to bring him home when it's his will because even though dad is only 61, his body is that of a 100 year old and his pain is so bad he can barely move some days. It breaks my heart to watch him take 10 minutes to even get out of the car sometimes. I cry more watching him TRY to live than I will when he dies. Watching the suffering sometimes can be worse than the loss.
Please know that we all have our arms around you and are squeezing you tight and wiping your eyes. Feel free to cry as crying cleanses the soul but always focus on the GREAT times you had with Carl or the times he made you laugh as these are the times he would want you to remember sweetie.
May Jesus bring you peace in your heart and mind today and every day you grieve for Carl. May you find the strength you need in his word daily.
Remember to also take care of yourself. Light candles, take hot baths, read or do crafts, sit and play plants, whatever it is you find enjoyment in.
I will say a prayer for Carl today and keep him close at heart.
Sorry for your pain and loss Eunice. Please know we are all here for you.
XO
Kim
Eunice,I'm so sorry for your loss.Thoughts and prayers sent to you and your family.
just want to say thank you to everyone on daves.
you have been so kind to me this hold year,you all have been there when i was so down
you seem to know when i needed just a how are you.
just please keep mary in your prayers,she is going through a very hard time.
This is her first day with out him in her house,and shes haveing it bad ,today shes
cleaning up everything and she want let me help.i worry far she all by her self and im
over 20 miles away.
Thank you for your update, Eunice.
WE will keep all of you in our thoughts.
Eunice, you are still in my prayers and I will say prayers for Mary. I didn't know your dear brother was married. We all grieve differently Mary might need to have this time to clean ... time to get past the days that have just gone by, time to be with her own thoughts. Just let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs you. Right now she is probably remembering the suffering and Carl had to endure, the doctors and all the visits to the hospital. The time will come when her pain and heartache lessens and she will be able to talk about Carl and remember the good times. And, you two will be able to reminise with smiles and happy tears.
Hugs & Blessings to you and your family,
Lin
no LIN he wasn't married,
mary is his oldest sister ,
there 5 years different between them,
she always took care of him.
thats why it so hard on her,
she says he was like a son instead of a brother
Eunice, I am so sorry to hear you lost your brother. My prayers are with you and your family.
Hugs
Maureen
Oh Eunice, it is understandable then, she probably does feel as though she has lost a son. I hope it gets a bit easier each day for Mary and for you. I know she appreciates you being there for her when she needs you.
I have always said that I hope I get to go before my brother as they will just have to drop me off at the city dump if I lose my only brother.