This morning I had to do possibly the hardest thing of my life. I had to put my black lab, Onyx, to sleep. We found out last week she had breast cancer. This was very sudden. It has progressed so much from then till today. She was in pain and my husband and I didn't want her to suffer. I feel like I have failed her and I'm not sure if I can move on. I could really use some support right now.
I need some support...
I understand what you are saying! I had to put a cat down two years ago. I still think about her, but remember the good thoughts. Pets are like your children and you do miss them. It's the good memories that will get you through.
Nancy B
Dear achoogardner,
I am so truly very sorry for your loss of Onyx. Losing a beloved pet is so hard and feels so awful that you can feel like you can't move on. Right now, you are grieving so but in time, you will move past this terrible feeling you have right now. I still hold special places in my heart for my pets that I've lost as they are so dear. And yes, they still can bring tears to my eyes and a lump in my throat. You didn't fail her. I know you loved her very much and she is at peace. She will always live and hold a special place in your heart forever.
I am so Sorry you and your Onyx and family are in my prayers.
I understand ours are our children and always with us. You did not fail her she is happy and without pain now over the Rainbow bridge. Hope she see's our Babe there !
We had to put our 13 year old Babe to sleep last Summer. My husband took it the worst he cried over her for months, I was crying , neighbors and our Precious was depressed to lose her big sister for month. It's so hard.
We talk about how wonderful she was and we miss her each day.Time heals but they always stay in our hearts.
think of the wonderful life she had and all the fun good times !
Hi Melissa,
So so sorry for your loss. When we lose a beloved pet, it's just as hard as losing a family member. Please be consoled that you and your husband did the only thing possible for her to eliminate her pain and suffering. Be comforted that she is at peace now and you will see her again at the Rainbow Bridge. I know that is the only thing that kept me going in similar situations. It will get easier, I promise.
http://www.indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2.html
Don
I am truly sorry for loss of your baby. It will take time to move on but just know it is okay to greive for your beloved pet. Hold on to the memories and know that you did the only thing you could have done for Onyx.
My heart goes out to you.I too have been in your shoes and I know there are not enough words to console you.You are in my thoughts and prayers too. Nancy
It is so hard to deal with losing a pet. I know the feeling all too well. What helps me is the Rainbow Bridge poem. I truly believe that one day I will have a pack of nutty dogs running to me in heaven wagging their tails and snorting at me.( I had snorty type dogs). I also have comfort that as my mother has passed and my father they are enjoying them right now. I know that when my dogs went to the Rainbow Bridge they are now free of pain and happy again. God takes care of ALL our loved ones...with or without fur! What also has helped me is getting another dog a few weeks later. I cannot live in a dogless house. Its sometimes hard to do so, as you seem to think your replacing the pet you lost but I always adopt rescue dogs, so I feel like I am saving a life,when one has passed on. It makes the pain of losing my dog so much easier to deal with and I have the chance to give the new dog a happy home with love and care (and spoil em rotten!)... as so many rescue dogs have not had that experience. Here is a picture of my rescue dog Bullie to bring a smile to your face... cause hes kinda goofy looking. Use the wonderful memories of Onyx to heal your heart. God Bless.
oh i know how you feel, i just had to put my cat of 10 years to sleep 2 weeks ago, never even knew he was sick until about a week before, he just would'ent eat, that lasted for about 5 days & then it was to the vet, i tried everything to get him to eat, but nothing worked,so the vet examined him & found a very large cancerous tumer in his stomach & it was inoperable.I was floored, he said he must have had it for awhile, i never knew.i surely never expected those results & had to decide then & there, of course it broke my heart as did all the others i have had to do that with, it surley kills you.But there is nothing else you can do & we all must pass at one time or another.It sure does'ent mean you have to like it. Time does heal all wounds i am better today than a few weeks ago, but i still have all those memories.All we can do is te best we can do & be thankful for the time we had as life is really short, especially for our furry friends, so enjoy them while you can.My prayers are with you to heal as fast as possible.
bonnie
I am so sorry to hear that you lost your beloved pet, Onyx. I have also lost pets and know how terrible the pain is that we feel, but it will lessen over time and you will have good memories of her. I will keep you and your husband in my prayers and I do believe Onyx was very fortunate to have owners who cared so much about her.
Oh, no! I'm so sorry to hear about Onyx... it's so hard to lose a beloved pet, and even knowing you did the kind and best thing for her by having her put to sleep just doesn't make it much easier to bear.
You didn't fail her -- you loved her, and you comforted her, and when she was in too much pain you found the strength to let her go. Be mad at the cancer that took her, but don't blame yourself. I know Onyx enjoyed the life she shared with you, and I hope you'll cherish your memories of her in the years ahead.
I'm praying right now for comfort and healing for you and your DH.... I know you're missing her tonight.
Thanks everyone. Last night was very rough. I keep looking for Onyx to come out of her doghouse wagging her tail. It is heart breaking. The rainbow bridge poem did help, even as it made me cry more. I feel all of your prayers and I appreciate them. Bless you all....
So very sorry to hear about Onxy. It is very hard to loose devoted friends and family. My prayers are with you.
I'm so sorry about your dear pet Onyx. Last year I had to put my golden retriever, Joshua, down because he had lung cancer and heart disease. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I blamed myself for a long time thinking that I was a bad owner for not seeing what was going on with him. I now realize that it was not my fault just as it is not your fault. I still miss Joshua but I had to go on and you will too. My Joshua was 13 and I had gotten him when he was only 5 weeks old. We were together for a long time and he still holds a special place in my heart that nothing can ever replace. I know that it hurts but the pain will get less over time. Just give yourself time to grieve for your baby and one day you will see her again in heaven. But for now try to think of all the good times that you shared together and what a joy it was that you got to spend all of those years with her.
Jesse
Melissa that is the most difficult thing a pet lover has to do. I am sure that many of us have experienced the same sort of loss but that doesn't make it easier for you.
It's a terrible, heart wrenching loss for you and that pain will be there for a long time. For Onyx, she was a well taken care, cherished member of your family and she will not suffer any longer. You were a wonderful pet mom and you loved her and gave her a happy life.
You are in my thoughts.