This issue where Kim s trade went really bad is not my fault!!!! it has nothing to do with me. it was NOT me !!!!!!!
i cant deal with the emails that are coming in saying if it was you then you should of kept it private.
it wasnt me and others have even wrote on the thread it wasnt me but the emails are still coming.
a few have been nice and supportive but others are supportive but if it was you type emails and i cant deal with it anymore.
i sent postage to her Tuesday. so i cant have gotten any plants from her yet as she hasnt gotten my postage yet .
my mom was in a car wreck yesterday and this is the last thing i need right now.
please believe me when i say and others do to it wasnt ME!!!!!!
its to the point i am thinking is it worth it to be here when someone gets blamed for someone elses doing.
i am thinking of leaving
you have my sympathy.
Anyone who accused you without knowing the facts should be ashamed.
It would hurt my feelings too. Sometimes we are all too quick to pop off an email accusing someone when we dont know what we are talking about. We say "type" things that we probably wouldnt say to ones face.
And worse...email words can be misconstrued, without the facial expression to help interpret what you really mean.
Dont leave...if you havent done anything to merit hard feelings.
Lots of us love Kim and have profited from her generousity..me included. Kim will feel bad if an innocent person is the target of a witch hunt.
hang in there...if it persists...talk to Dave..he may need to have a word of prayer with some folks ...hugs....charlotte
If people had read what Kim actually wrote they would have known it wasn't you, as you have been on DG a long time unlike the other person who just joined....which is what Kim wrote.....She clearly said it was newbie.
Hang in there Imzadi, this issue will pass shortly.
Sorry to hear about your mom, sure hope she's alright.
Marc
Focus on what's important (your mom) and forget the rest. It's far too easy to hit "send" without thinking it through... And, it was made very clear on the other thread that it wasn't you... even after Kim edited her post.
Don't go, we haven't had a chance to trade yet... ;-)
Barb
Thats right...dont you have a maya cutting :)...I killed mine :0
Boy, are you right, Charlotteda! I haven't the slightest idea of what happened. I adore Kim......she's a great DG'er, and any thread w/her name on it gets read at my PC! =) Don't know you, imzadi, but when I read you were receiving mean emails, I thought, "What a shame!"
I love the internet--heck, it's got Dave's Garden on it! =D BUT, I have experienced emails/exchanges w/posters--and members of my own family!--that make you bristle a bit because of the tone w/out the benefit of personal context value. Like you said, Charlotte, facial expressions, tone octaves (lol) and word emphasis are invaluable in communication, and because the internet is not a human device in its origin, those are ALL missing! Tough navigating sometimes.......that's why we've got all of these nifty, cute little icon codes! ;-)
I felt a pang of sympathy for you, imzadi, as I saw your post--no one should feel isolated or "bull's eye"'d in a public forum. If I had a magic wand, I'd wave it, utter "Be gone uncomfortable moments!" and wait to see if anyone posts an availability of something I want! lol
--MKJ.......(I myself always have to be sure that I watch what I type....I have a touch of the recreational "sailor's mouth," and I die a thousand deaths when I have to get a reprimand from Dave!!!" =0
Hey - I read Kims post it was really clear it was not you, the member who did it even posted she did it. You can always refer them to that post. If they are blaming you they just cannot read and dont know the whole thing. Sorry for their ignorance - Mitch
This is exactly why this should have been kept private. It is not fair Imzadi get blamed for something she had nothing to do with. It is also not fair for a Newbie to be treated this way either. She made a mistake, and she apologized in private and on DG. Who hasn't made mistakes? I know I have made many.
Dave's Garden is a place we all can come too, and not be afraid to trade plant and share ideas. Life is too short. Let's just enjoy life and our common love for Dave's Garden.
Patti
I join the rest in saying I have no idea what was said, but i certainly would have been upset if I got the e-mails you got, Imzadi! Please try to forgive them, for they know not what they were doing. Please stay and enjoy this great gathering of plant lovers. We need you! Lou
I dont know you, but I feel sympathy for anyone who is wrongly accused. Dont let it get to you!! They should be ashamed to accuse you without enough info!! I am pretty new to DG but it is such a great site, this is a stain on the great kindness of the people here. Hang in there!!!
I hope your mother is OK.
Zelda
Marie,
_Please don't go._
You were so nice to me always!
Thank you for all you've done; you're an angel!
~* Robin☺♥
I'm praying for your Mom too; this is all such a tragic mistake..... I feel for you.
This message was edited Jun 17, 2005 10:55 PM
I have no idea of what's happening but I feel bad if you were wrongly accused and I'm sure you were. You must be feeling so upset from your words. Couldn't Kim come forward and name who she's upset with and release you from the haunting emails? At least she could say it is not you!
I will pray for you and your Mom.
Okayyyy.. Had to jump this thread
Marie, I am so sorry you were blamed for anything. I didn't realize many people read my post. Because there are so few I read..I wish I had more time to. I should have not put any comments on here. I am a very very calm person and very hard to anger. I believe everything has been blown out of poportion. Also it takes a whole lot to hurt my feelings...LOL smile
The internet can not see my face or hear my voice. Therefore my post was interpreted wrong. I give because I want someone else to have it. I truly believe it is my nature. Everything I do is with good intentions and not to hurt. But we are humman and people get hurt. Regardless if it is intended or not. Chin up! and blow off. You would not believe the things I blow off on a daily basis. Also the things I put up with.
Also, I have told the person (whom everyone thinks I'm upset with)
I would continue to share with, or trade. Under NO circumstances ever think I wouldn't after this fiasco...LOL. So how could I possibly be upset?
Many years ago, the thoughts of being a programmer was in my little head. Then I started to see just how strange people can be when they are anonymous. DG is unique because we are active, friendly, outdoorsey types, playing with the geeks. Trust me when I say this, e-life is weird, and overexaggerated. Many people quite enjoy being the person that gets someone else all wound up. Its like a game to them, so they can see how freaked the other person gets.
Do your own thing, don't let others get you down, laugh at the hecklers (that freaks them even more, remember the two guys in the balcony @ Muppets?, LOL, that's what I picture when I run into a "flamer"), step back when the e-life frustrates you a bit, hide in the beds, live the primative pre-DG life for a minute, then everything is spot-on again.
Yes, I'm new here, and most of this went over my head. I only know everyone here from reading a few posts. You all seem great, funny, knowledgeable, and GENEROUS. DG, as fabulous as it is, is ice-cream. Its the extra mile that we go. When you've had too many sweets, take a tums, lay down and rest, then come back later. :)
Marie, my aunt's convent is praying for you and your mom. I'm sending thoughts of inner peace to everyone else.
I'm ready for more ice cream....
-Lu
imzadi, sometimes it's very easy for people to read things the wrong way. We are all imperfect and have our flaws. Everyone wants you to stay, so as Kim said you weren't the one. You just take care of your Mom and yourself.
Hugs, Donna
I am just sorry this happened to both of you.
No idea what this is about or how the rest of you are familiar with the situation, but--
this is a message board, not a place-- you can't leave it any more than you can "leave" a book you're reading, or leave a radio station that has started to bore or irritate you; it's a resource that will still be here for you to use whether you visit once a day or once a year.
Addendum-- I dug around and due to all the apparent editing I am completely clueless, so ignore my previous post . . .
Imzadi - how are you, your mom and your feelings? Better I hope. You'll stay in my prayers.
Prayers for you and your mom and your family Blessings Shirley
my mom gets to come out the hospital tommorow pending her last test turns out okay.
for those who dont know my mom was in a n accident the night this trade for Kim went bad.
they kept her in the hospital due to her head( concusion) hitting the window and seat belt bruises. i know that sounds weird but the fact is also have told on the forums my mom has a liver problem ( a growth they are watching) so they want to give her an mri(????) the thingy here they can see inside her but like a fine xray thingy. ands her blood pressure is up but i suspect thats from the wreck and trauma of it.
we are here though and now both moms ( my mother in law was in a wreck about 2 weeks ago) are with out a car. so you can imagine the directions i am pulled in. we go look at cars for my mil tommorow after my daughter gets her shots.
any mom( dads) out there will understand the trauma for this task.
right now i havent decided to stay or go. just taking things slowly.
the emails were pretty viscious in one i got privately and brought up the feedback and things in the past and who could i hurt KIm. but i sent that one to who it needed to go to and blocked them on my email.
Good to hear your mom is home now. Good luck in finding cars for both. Geeesh!! What a lot on your plate this past few weeks. Hope you are having a better day today. HOpe you stay with us. WE enjoy your posts. Take care. Yvonne
Hugs for you and your moms!
Diana
Marie,
Prayers being said for you, your mother and your mil. Gosh the attackers struck at the worse possible time for you, didn't they. I'm so sorry your feelings have been hurt.
Hugs,
Judy