Tropicals & Tender Perennials: Possibly a tropical, any ideas?, 1 by caganimalover

caganimalover wrote:
I have been hunting the www for any and all Pedilanthus tithymaloides words, pictures (which sent me in a gillion different directions of genus/species/families), and 2 full days thinking that I could locate a group of plants that were similar, but a little different (like mine). No luck.

Pedilanthus tithymaloides inconsistencies include: ends of leaves are much longer than wide and go to a point, stem grows in a zig zag pattern
This picture shows the stem structure exactly and the leaves being offset one another side to side of the stem , but it also shows the leaves to end at a definite point. Most of the leaves on my plant have a very rounded end. A very few come to slight point, but is still a rounded end. http://www.hear.org/starr/hiplants/images/600max/html/starr_...
Synadenium grantii some of the inconsistencies include the stems and the way they grow (they branch off from a main stem), the leaves can be true red, the height get up to 10ft.
Peperomia are way too short.

My real concern for getting a positive ID on this plant is due to the fact that of everything that has been suggested and search upon I am finding vast differences in their growing requirements. I don't want this plant to die and the various species (or whatever their called) are very conflicting and opposite requirements. At this point I don't know if it want sun or shade, to be dry or wet. Please help with more suggestions. I want to extend my appreciativeness up front.
~~~ Carol