General Discussion & Chat: Best/Worse/What did I learn today, visit with friend old/new..all welcome to join us chat!, 1 by WormsLovSharon

WormsLovSharon wrote:
We had rain yesterday and suppose to have rain tomorrow and Tuesday. Yesterday was Vern\'s 86th Birthday. I picked up 3 different pies from Marie Calendars. I do not bake and he could not make up his mind. So I got a lemon, banana cream and chocolate. He has really enjoyed the banana cream. Our 45th anniversary is the 17th. His daughter was here for his birthday. She is 57. He knew her but barely.

He has been admitted to hospice. At home care and they feel it could be 6 months to a year but he is getting weaker every day. He looked right at me the other day and told me I needed to call Sharon and tell me he was going to be a few days late. He keeps thinking we are moving and he also keeps thinking we left the dogs and cats behind. They have tested fr a UTI and it is not a UTI. I have attached a photo of us same year we got married. He was 41 and I was 31.

We knew we would get to this point in our life but it seems sooner than we thought. I guess we lost track that we were getting old.

He does not really know this is hospice. I still have my morning help and they are going to help get him to bed. I didn\'t want the word hospice used because I thought it would alarm him. He still has his sense of humor and eats a good breakfast (at lunch time) and dinner. He has stopped drinking coffee and does no longer like most sweets. His daughter was alarmed at what a mess he made when he ate. I told her to not worry about it. I was there to clean up and he did not want to be fed. She also thought he needed a hospital bed and I told her we, Vern and I, had discussed that and he wanted to stay in the bed with the animals and me. So it was an usual visit with his daughter. She lives in the state of Washington, thank you God.

You are the first I have told. Just keep us in your prayers but we are both doing fine. I have been dealing with this for over 2 years and have learned a lot. One thing for sure, do not sweat the small stuff. And you can either laugh or cry and laughing feels better. My son, the doctor, is the one that told me to get him into hospice. He said most individuals go in way to late.